Meaning and Magic

Month: May 2011

  • NVC Question #1

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    Question: “Mommy is disappointed when you don’t finish your food.” is changed to “Mommy feels disappointed when you don’t finish your food, because I want you to grow up strong and healthy.” Why? Answer: So the basic NVC model is observations, feelings, needs, and requests. And when you’re doing NVC for real, not just saying…

  • How to read NVC

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    Nonviolent Communication is one of my favorite books. I recommend it to pretty much everyone I know who hasn’t already read it, and I’ve found myself repeating (and I hope refining) roughly the same disclaimer/explanation about how to approach the book, largely derived from the questions people keep asking me about it. So, to avoid…

  • Blogging at the Emergent Fool

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    I’ve started blogging over at The Emergent Fool. Here’s a link to my first post.

  • Brain burning

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    Here’s a thought experiment: If you could burn ten claims about the nature of the world into everyone’s brain, so that they truly grokked them, which ones would you choose?   My answers, stolen from all over the place, in rough order of perceived importance: Reality is not vague. The past is sunk. There is no failure,…

  • Sticky claims and surprise meters

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    I’ve been rereading the early posts of Mysterious Answers to Mysterious Questions, and will now, as an exercise for myself, try summarize my best understanding of the relevant concepts and how I relate to them using my own jargon: I will describe two natural clusters of mental representations “sticky claims” and “surprise meters” and their respective…