Meaning and Magic

Tag: NVC

  • NVC Question #6

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    Question: “I want you to stop drinking.” This, it seems, is not a clear request that a specific action be taken. We are, as he says, not in agreement. He says, the speaker might have said: “I want you to tell me what needs of yours are met by drinking, and to discuss with me…

  • NVC Question #5

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    Question: “When others trust that our primary commitment is to the quality of the relationship, and that we expect this process to fulfill everyone’s needs, then they can trust that our requests are true requests and not camouflaged demands.” I’m not sure exactly what he means by this. Would you mind elaborating? Answer: With NVC,…

  • NVC Question #4

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    Question: “We stay with empathy, allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before we turn our attention to solutions or requests for relief.” Do you know what he means by “request for relief?” Is that asking them to do something so that we feel better? Answer: I’m not completely sure. I think it means…

  • NVC/IFS in Action: Nausea

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    I’m a firm believer that physical sensations on their own do not create suffering—that suffering arises when there’s some sort of internal conflict. The book Nonviolent Communication includes a story of a woman resolving a migraine by connecting with her underlying needs, which, to me, was one of the less believable parts of the book…

  • NVC in Action: Tovar

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    I often practice my NVC skills during conflicts with Tovar (my favorite five-year old :-)). Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. One night last week, it worked amusingly well, so I thought I’d share. Tovar got upset when I trapped him under a blanket for a few seconds while we were roughhousing. He did his…