Tag: IFS
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Six Ideas for Moving Through Grief
A friend of mine who’s been going through a rough time recently asked me for advice about moving through grief. But soon after he asked the question, my baby started getting upset, and I got off the phone to help her. But I haven’t forgotten the question, so here are six strategies I would suggest…
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IFS Question #1: How can I access a part if I can’t remember a specific situation?
Today I was teaching one of my clients to do IFS on himself. We were using the appendix from Jay Earley’s Self-Therapy book as a guide, and doing so made me want to make my own list of heuristics for good questions to ask while doing IFS. The appendix recommends that you access a protector…
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IFS practice group this Saturday (Nov 5): Make friends with the voices in your head!
It’s been a while since I’ve hosted an official gathering, but I’ve been practicing hard, and I keep getting inquiries, so it must be about time. The exact time is this Saturday, November 5th from 3:00pm-6:00pm. And, even better, Shannon has been doing intensive (averaging multiple hours a day!) IFS training with me, so the…
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Identifying With
Recently I’ve been using the phrase “identify with” a bunch. As in, “I’m learning not to identify with my past self”, or “I try not to identify with my beliefs”, or “the ego is what, when accurately perceived, we stop identifying with”. When a friend of mine asked me what I meant by “identifying with”,…
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NVC/IFS in Action: Nausea
I’m a firm believer that physical sensations on their own do not create suffering—that suffering arises when there’s some sort of internal conflict. The book Nonviolent Communication includes a story of a woman resolving a migraine by connecting with her underlying needs, which, to me, was one of the less believable parts of the book…