Meaning and Magic

Tag: communication

  • This Sunday: Communication Class at the Happiness Institute in SF

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  • Five Questions that Let You Watch What’s Going on in People’s Heads

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    A while back, when I was making Anki decks of the life concepts that I found most important, I wrote these two sentences: “Communication is authentic when what we express externally corresponds to what’s going on internally.” “Humans crave authentic communication.” If you’re anything like me, you spend a big chunk of your waking hours…

  • NVC Question #12

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    Question: Explain to me why “intimidated” is not a proper feeling-word. Answer: “Intimidated” isn’t an emotion—the word includes an interpretation of the situation. The emotion on its own would probably be fear, maybe anxiety, maybe some other mix. When you say “intimidated”, you’re also bringing up a story about the other person’s behavior, and I’d…

  • NVC Question #11

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    Question: I’m still kind of confused about the NVC general sense of the term ‘need’. I’d before been thinking that NVC talks about ‘needs’ rather than ‘values’ or ‘wants’ because by thinking of them as needs, people would respect the desire once noticing and taking account of it, in themselves and/or others. So this was…

  • NVC Question #10

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    Question: How does “I need to…” relate to NVC needs, such as judgments being alienated expressions of unmet needs? Answer: “I need to” is classified as an internal demand, which is related to a judgment, but a bit different. “Demand” means that fear, guilt, or shame are part of the enforcement system.