Author: divia
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Why we procrastinate the most when we’re working on the right thing
I’ve had trouble focusing today. A lot of the right things were in place: I had a short list of the most important things to do today, my schedule was almost completely clear, I was in my favorite work space with a good friend there to co-work, and I’d gotten lots of sleep. Usually, these…
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IFS Question #1: How can I access a part if I can’t remember a specific situation?
Today I was teaching one of my clients to do IFS on himself. We were using the appendix from Jay Earley’s Self-Therapy book as a guide, and doing so made me want to make my own list of heuristics for good questions to ask while doing IFS. The appendix recommends that you access a protector…
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Key Terms from Crucial Conversations
I wrote this up and gave it out as a handout at one of my recent communication classes at the Happiness Institute. Crucial Conversations is one of my favorite books on communication, and I particularly like some of the terms it defines. Here it is! Start with Heart To have a good dialogue, figure out…
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Video of me talking about Villain, Victim, and Helpless Stories
I’ve been planning to upload video blog posts for a while now, but hadn’t actually gotten around to doing it for a number of excuse-type reasons. So, since I subscribe to the philosophy that not only is “perfect the enemy of the good”–“good enough is the enemy of at all“, I’ve posted something. Expect more…
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Want an important perspective on bipolar? Watch this video.
A friend of mine sent me a link to the bipolarorwakingup YouTube channel a while back, and I’ve since then shared it with a number of other people, some of whom have diagnoses of bipolar. I’ve read the book the guy who’s behind this wrote about his own experience, and I can’t say we see…