Meaning and Magic

Month: May 2011

  • NVC Question #7

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    Question: I’m wondering how one would actually make one the requests outlined in the book as un-NVC: “I’d like you to respect my privacy.” Yes, in one particular instance this could mean knocking on the door, but how would I make the more general need known? There are many times when it is not reasonable…

  • NVC Question #6

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    Question: “I want you to stop drinking.” This, it seems, is not a clear request that a specific action be taken. We are, as he says, not in agreement. He says, the speaker might have said: “I want you to tell me what needs of yours are met by drinking, and to discuss with me…

  • NVC Question #5

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    Question: “When others trust that our primary commitment is to the quality of the relationship, and that we expect this process to fulfill everyone’s needs, then they can trust that our requests are true requests and not camouflaged demands.” I’m not sure exactly what he means by this. Would you mind elaborating? Answer: With NVC,…

  • Rationalist Conversation Patterns

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    A few months ago a conversation I had with someone at one of the NYC Rationality meetups prompted me to write an email on the subject of rationalist conversational norms. I kept telling myself I’d distill my points from the email into a more coherent summary, and I’ve haven’t, so instead I’m posting it pretty…

  • NVC Question #4

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    Question: “We stay with empathy, allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before we turn our attention to solutions or requests for relief.” Do you know what he means by “request for relief?” Is that asking them to do something so that we feel better? Answer: I’m not completely sure. I think it means…